My existence as a youkai is a pretty lonely one. To be honest, I don't think the Otherkin community suits me, because... I may be even too strange and puzzling for otherkin people.
Fortunately, I'm not all alone. I have human partners to speak to (and to cuddle !) and they don't make fun of me whatsoever when I speak about who I am. I often say that I don't like humans, but that's really not true.
Still, as a youkai, I'm just very lonely, with no peers to be with. I'm just one of a kind... Maybe it is part of my nature as a somewhat shut-in spirit.