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    What is a Copinglink?

    Introduction The term "copinglink" (c'link for short) was coined fairly recently by a member of the Tumblr otherkin community. The term is officially defined as such: Why was this term created? In recent years there has been a rising trend in the idea of using a non-human or fictional identity as a means for coping. The term copinglink was created to replace the term "copingkin", which was a bit of a misnomer since it contained the word "kin" when copinglinkers are generally not seen as falling under the otherkin or fictionkin umbrellas. What is the difference between copinglinks and otherkin? Otherkinity is characterized by being an integral identity as a non-human creature in a non-physical sense. Otherkinity is usually considered to be "innate", or being an identity that is present within someone "from birth", or something that is present in the constitution of one's mind, brain or spirit without having been created consciously or by experience. The only common exception are identities that arise from trauma. In short, otherkin do not choose to experience their identities, nor do they choose their kintypes. Copinglinkers are people who consciously create and choose the nature of their identity in a way that best suits them as a coping mechanism. Because copinglinks are a choice, they do not fit within the definitions of otherkin or fictionkin. Are copinglinks welcome in the Otherkin community? Even though copinglinks do not fall under the otherkin umbrella, it is perfectly fine for non-kin to participate in the otherkin community. Copinglinks and otherkin do share a lot of common ground and that is worth embracing. There is nothing wrong with not being otherkin. You do not need to identify as otherkin in order to be welcome into the community. Final thoughts It is perfectly legitimate to identify as a copinglinker. As long as a coping mechanism is effective in helping the individual deal with their stress and is not harmful or unhealthy, then there is nothing wrong with using it.
  2. An otherkin is someone who, on an integral, non-physical level, identifies as non-human. Psychological otherkinity is for those who believe that the cause of their experiences is partially or wholly the result of psychological or neurological phenomenon. “Psychology” refers to the study of the mind, whereas “neurology” refers to the study of the physical brain. Currently, there are no widespread psychological or neurological studies about non-human identity. Therefore psychological otherkinity is based on personal belief and experiences rather than scientific fact. When trying to determine whether a certain behavior is a result of identifying non-human or not, always try to find explanations in medical/psychological explanations. For example, feeling headaches in a specific place most likely has a medical explanation, and is not a result of otherkinity or experiencing supernumerary phantom limbs, such as horns. Even “acting like an animal” isn’t typically a result of identifying as non-human. Otherkin are still fundamentally human, and therefore have the ability to practice self-control. If one is “acting like an animal” then it is usually upon choice. This is especially true for children/childhood experiences, since playing pretend and pretending to be an animal is a fairly normal and common childhood pastime. However, otherkin may experience the urge to behave a certain way, such as the urge to walk on all fours, without necessarily acting upon those urges. Otherkinity is not an excuse for abnormal or unhealthy behavior. Here are some of the common psychological beliefs about otherkinity Psychological Otherkinity as a result of coping or trauma. This is characterized by the belief that one’s non-human identity came about as a result of significant trauma or prolonged coping with personal hardships. This is not to be confused with a coping mechanism. A coping mechanism is what someone chooses to do in order to deal with stress. An integral identity is never a choice; therefore otherkinity cannot just be used as a coping mechanism. Psychological Otherkinity as an inherent/innate part of one’s Psyche. This is characterized by the belief that one’s non-human identity was present in the mind/brain from birth. It is possible to believe that whatever causes one to identify as non-human was present from birth even if the identity developed later in life. Similarly, many believe that they were not “born with” a non-human identity, but perhaps that they were born predisposed to certain elements of the identity that result in developing a non-human identity over time Otherkinity and Mental Health Counselling/Therapy Otherkin are human, too, and it may just so happen that some otherkin seek mental health counselling or therapy for issues that may or may not be related to identifying as non-human. Psychological otherkinity in and of itself is not a mental illness. Otherkinity is not caused by nor does it cause any form of mental illness. However, some otherkin suffer from what is known as “species dysphoria”. Species dysphoria is a term that describes the stress, displeasure, or disassociation that may arise from identifying as non-human. It is mainly characterized by displeasure with identifying as something other than one’s physical body. This feeling can also be characterized by feeling as though one “does not belong” on Earth or within human society due to identifying as non-human. (Please note: species dysphoria is not an "official" name or diagnosis) Sometimes, depending on the severity of the dysphoria, an individual will choose to seek mental health counselling in order to help alleviate some of the effects of species dysphoria. The choice to seek mental health counselling is the choice of each individual. Not all otherkin experience species dysphoria, and not all otherkin who do experience species dysphoria seek counselling for it. Otherkinity and Delusions If someone claims that that they identify psychologically as non-human, it does not mean that they are claiming to be delusional. A delusion is a persistent false belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary. Since there is no indisputable evidence stating that a person cannot identify as non-human in a non-physical sense (such as spiritually or psychologically), otherkinity cannot be categorized as a delusion. This is not to be confused with clinical Lycanthropy, which is a condition that is characterized by a delusional belief that one has transformed, will transform or are transforming into a non-human creature in a physical sense.
  3. There are nearly an infinite number of personal spiritual beliefs that are held worldwide to this day. Although personal spiritual beliefs are highly subjective and personal, the rules are hardly “anything goes” when it comes to spiritual Otherkinity. Otherkinity is characterized by identifying as non-human on a deeply personal and integral level in a non-physical sense. Most Otherkin generally share the same kinds of basic experiences. It is not so much the “what” of our experiences that makes all Otherkin different, but the “why”. For spiritual Otherkin, this “why” is answered by one’s personal spiritual beliefs. Otherkinity and Religion Personal spiritual beliefs may be a part of one’s personal religion or they may not be. Otherkinity in itself is not a religious belief. There is no religion that specifically mentions identifying as non-human in one’s current life as a physical human being. This is not to be confused with the widespread beliefs about reincarnation, as one can still believe in reincarnation and experience past lives, including non-human past lives, without identifying as non-human now. Otherkinity, Spirit Animals, and Totems It is important to make a distinction between these three ideas. Although similar, they are all fundamentally different, but similar enough to be confusing for many. Otherkinity, as stated above, is characterized by identifying as non-human. This identity is an integral part of the individual, and therefore cannot be seen as separate from the individual. A Spirit Animal or Spiritual Guide is a spiritual entity that is typically seen as one’s personal guide in life or spiritual matters. This entity is seen as a separate entity from the individual. Therefore, a spirit animal or spiritual guide is not one’s kintype. A Totem is a non-human creature that is used to represent an individual or a group of individuals, such as a family or clan. For example, the country of Wales uses a red dragon to represent their nation. A totem animal is not an integral part of one’s identity, and is therefore not a kintype. Finding Reliable and Relevant Resources There are tons and tons of resources and ideas regarding personal spiritual beliefs and practices that are available on the web today. Not all of these guides and practices are plausible, healthy, or safe, and many of them are either not relevant or may even be misleading when it comes to spiritual Otherkinity. Here are some tips on what to be wary of when looking at spiritual resources, and what to avoid. Avoid resources that claim the impossible. Many spiritual guides claim to be able to teach you to achieve feats that may be considered miraculous or outside of the realm of human possibility. But if it sounds too good to be true, then avoid it. Namely, avoid resources that claim to be able to teach you or guide you in physical shifting. Physical shifting is highly implausible given what we know about physics and the human body. Even magic wouldn’t be able to make it possible. Avoid resources that claim to be able to teach you how to “become Otherkin”. Otherkinity is an integral part of one’s identity, and therefore one can never “become Otherkin” through magical means. Be wary of resources that claim to be able to cause you to awaken. Remember that awakening is just the slow gradual process of discovering that you identify as non-human and discovering your kintype. The same goes for guides or techniques that claim to be able to “find your kintype”. Finding your specific kintype is normally a slow process of gradual self-discovery and research. There are no magical means for speeding up the process. Finally, be wary of groups or individuals who claim to be able to “read” your kintype or who try to tell you what your kintype should be. Otherkinity is a part of who you are. No-one, not even other people who are Otherkin, can tell you whether you are ‘kin or not or what your kintype is. Only you know what your internal experiences feel like, therefore only you can decide for yourself whether you are Otherkin or not, or what your kintype is. Lucid Dreaming, Astral Projection, and Meditation What these three techniques have in common is that they are all altered states of mind commonly used by Otherkin as tools for self-discovery and exploration. While practicing these techniques it is important to remember to keep a level head about what one experiences through them because they are states in which the mind is altered, and therefore heavily subject to the user’s thoughts and desires. This is especially true with lucid dreaming and astral projection, since the user has control over the dream or the astral plane. These practices are often used by Otherkin to aid their experience, whether it is for self-discovery or just for relaxation or the joy of the experience. However, because these experiences are heavily influenced by the subconscious thoughts and desires of the user, they are not a solid foundation to base one’s identity upon. Dreaming that you are a fox is not enough to make you a fox therian, and so on. Granted, Otherkin do certainly experiences dreams in which they are their kintype, but it is not the entire basis of their identity. Dreams in and of themselves are just a result of the brain processing memories while one is asleep. Dreams are highly symbolic representations of the dreamer’s subconscious thoughts. Therefore, always take things experienced in dreams with heavy skepticism.
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