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Ok it's pride month and I've been wanting to add a bunch of philosophical tidbits and a rant on love and why romantic love isn't the best type of love or the only one. And honestly, I'm so fed up with human society and how weird their views are from mine. It can be because I'm a therian and I'm different to begin with. Not to mention that being aromantic and asexual is the rarest orientation out there. I'm fully aware of the fact that I'm abnormal compared to most people. My thoughts and views on love were significantly different even from a young age like 10 years old. I remember where it all started. I had a discussion with my dad as a 10 year old where he told me that I'd fall in love one day and be so in love (which I know now is called infatuation) that I'll forget about my parents and the rest of my family and want to be with them for the rest of my life. I somehow had prior knowledge and told him that sounds crazy. In the present, I'm thinking about my two kintypes and thinking to myself if they would go through a similar dilemma that humans go through. Wolves, especially European wolves separate from their parental pack and form new packs most of the time. But I wonder if it's ever possible that they just decide to stay there and chill. Or if they even decide to join another pack (which is probably extremely rare and unlikely.) Mountain lions speak for themselves. They're totally solitary. So, I have no idea where these prior perspectives come from. I have difficulty watching many movies after all these years because I am so sick and tired of people stressing over and constantly focused on romantic relationships. It looks like society doesn't really care about platonic love or family love as much as they care about romantic love. They also use words like "more than a friend" "true love" to express romance. And if you can't find someone to marry "you'll die old and alone." As someone who's aromantic, it severely bothers me. Thankfully, there is a word for this. It's apparently called amatonormativity. I've only heard of it 2 years ago but I'm glad it exists and I'm not the only one focused on it. I always, always questioned: why can't you love your parents, siblings and friends as much as you love your spouse? Well with all the movies, media and society views on it, they literally shove romance and sex in your face and convince you that it's better. But I advise people that I talk to, to think for themselves on it. Just because two people of the opposite gender talk to each other and spend time with each other, it doesn't mean they have a crush necessarily. (Good god, I'm so sick of hearing people ask, "oh, do you have a crush on him?" for so many years.) Most of the time people do get crushes. But what about those that don't? Do they not exist? Apparently not. Yet people understand what the term "bromance" means or "brotps" so it looks like that's the only way I can reach about it to people. And there are definitely more ways to love someone than just by having sex with them. Using my own philosophy, which is very similar to Plato's, I think love can be totally psychological,mental or spiritual and can be attained through more ways than just through the physical world or physical contact. If you truly love someone, in anyway, you wouldn't care about their physical body but you care about their mind in the realm of thoughts (Plato calls the realm of thoughts as forms). Passionate love can only last so long. What about when you're in your 80's or 90's? Your body is probably really withered at this point, and all that remains is your mind. The physical realm, sensations and lust is fleeting, but only thoughts and ideas can last forever. Personally, I view platonic and family love to be a very pure form of love because the love is centered non-physical traits, unlike romance, which can be a mixture of personality and physical appearance. " Because the true goal of erôs (love) is real beauty and real beauty is the Form of Beauty, what Plato calls Beauty Itself, erôs finds its fulfillment only in Platonic philosophy. Unless it channels its power of love into "higher pursuits," which culminate in the knowledge of the Form of Beauty, erôs is doomed to frustration. For this reason, Plato thinks that most people sadly squander the real power of love by limiting themselves to the mere pleasures of physical beauty." http://www.iep.utm.edu/plato/ Honestly, I'm just thankful that there's someone out there that has already said this before. I advise people to look into other forms of love such as platonic love. This is my current philosophy and perspective as a 22 year old who's lived for this long in this current life, and this is the thoughts and ideas I experience in regards to my asexuality and my aromance. I have been extremely fed up with everything and I just want to prowl and skulk around by myself like a mountain lion at this point.