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  1. Maggie Darkmoon

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    Ok this one is really upsetting me. It's causing relationship problems off and on. I want to know how you have issues with emotion yourself.

    I have troubles possibly more then other do. Not only does my body seem to never (it might rarely?) portray the emotion I'm feeling correctly. I can't understand the emotions/body language/voice tone of other people. It's like I litterally have this condition: Social-emotional agnosia - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    Yet I can't actually say I do because it's caused by my soul not the body. So treatments probably wouldn't work.
    I honestly sorta want to cry right now. It's really frustrating. I've tried to many things to try and make myself portray correctly. Like today I went to my wife for advice feeling depressed and anxietic and I came off like a demanding c*** and it caused a fight. I feel horrible. This is probably the only problem I have with my kintype.
     
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    I have that problem, too. People would think I was angry or being aggressive when I was just frustrated. Frequently they would feel that my complaining and asking for advice was being aggressive towards them, when the conversation had nothing to do with them at all.

    The only things I can say are the following: First, present things you're saying calmly, logically, and basically without any emotion at all, to the best of your ability. If every emotion is perceived as aggression, try to appear emotionless. It's hard to do and it's not fun, but it's how I have to do things. Second, make sure you always bring up the problems soon after you figure them out, but give yourself a bit of time to calm down before you say something. Sometimes you just can't do this, but it's best to be calm when you want to say something. And third, remember that if you are telling someone that you're calm and you're not upset at them and you just want help and they still perceive you as aggressive, sometimes they're just grumpy and there's nothing you can do about it ;)
     
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  3. Maggie Darkmoon

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    Most people see me as angry when I'm depressed and on the verge of tears. My wife said when I was happy I'd look like I was enraged, angry or indifferent. So my body seemed to express the exsact opposite of what I am feeling.

    Maybe different types of demons have their emotions displayed differently. Yet same types have theres portrayed the same? Just a thoery.

    Thank you for the advice.
     
  4. Charias

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    I meant to comment on this thread a while ago, but I never really got around to it... yeah, I have similar problems.

    For me, I find it really easy to understand how other people are feeling. Too easy, if I'm honest. I remember talking about it to someone a while ago, and they said I might be some kind of empath? Didn't really believe in that stuff back then, but it would make sense. I'm so easily influenced by how other people are feeling. And when I'm around a lot of people at once, it's so hard to even focus on myself and how I am actually feeling... it's like I lose some of my self-awareness. I know introverts find social situations exhausting, but this seems to go beyond that.

    And then there's the opposite problem, more like you guys have described: nobody seems to be able to understand how I'm feeling. Even when I'm happy, I apparently come across as a little hostile. And if I'm sad, or depressed? Everyone instantly assumes I'm angry. Even when I tell them I am not angry. I am sad. I need a hug. They act like I'm being argumentative. It's really frustrating... I understand people so well, yet they don't understand me? It's hard not to be bitter about that.
     
  5. Maggie Darkmoon

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    Oh yeah I definitely have empathy too. I still have troubles understanding others emotions however. Maybe because my emotions are different from the people I'm reading?
     
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    I know how you guys feel, but how sure are you that it's kin-related? For me, it's a mental thing. It comes from Asperger syndrome for me and it's been a big challenge. Though, I guess maybe it could be both?
     
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    @Gryff honestly, I thought I had Asperger's syndrome for a while because of my social issues. Went to see a specialist about it and they said I almost certainly don't have it. In hindsight, I do kind of agree with that... I don't have any of the other "symptoms" of it, and my social issues aren't based on not understanding people. I understand people way too much. But they don't seem to 'get' me. Which is weird, considering I've also been told that I'm very emotionally expressive? I just. I don't get me either. Why do I make no sense. OTL

    At this point, the only reason I can really think of for it is that it's some spiritual mumbo-jumbo. And considering what I identify as, and that I view it as a spiritual thing... wouldn't really surprise me if it interfered in that sort of way. Idk though. If someone told me that there was something that completely explained all this in a psychological way, then I'd be fine with that.

    Basically what I'm saying here is that this isn't the conclusion I'd usually jump to! It's just the best I've got right now.
     
  8. Maggie Darkmoon

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    @Gryff I am sure mine is spiritual or something along those lines. I'm referring to the psychic type of empathy personally. The type where you physically feel others pain. Not from seeing others in pain, that can trigger it but... With my exs they would hurt themselves and I'd feel it. Without them telling me or me seeing it. Majority of these exs where long distance. I would later bring up if they did X or hurt X unprovoked and was always confirmed.

    I don't know if others ment normal empathy or the psychic version.
     
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    I have this problem too, but it's severe. I always look like i'm angry, even when trying to appear emotionless, and I sound mean when I talk normally, so I have to lower my voice, but when I do, no one takes me seriously, which is fine by me. it's easy to fly under the radar. it's also why I try to be nice and everything, while at the same time, I know exactly what others are feeling, and why they feel that way, as long as I can see their eyes of course, and because of this, people say its because I have the gift of discernment, which I do, but to a greater extent, the other thing about this, is I read the emotions I feed off best, even if I can't see or hear that person. the funny thing is, i'm about as far away as you can get from being empathetic, just another thing i'm still learning to deal with. even better, is i'm quite expressive, people just don't look close enough to see past what they think they see. and I think that's the problem that we all have.
     
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    We've been told we're extremely expressive. However, we're consistently misinterpreted. I once had a stranger come up to me asking if I was okay when I was actually happy. We get angry and people see us as depressed. No one takes us seriously if we cuss, so we don't, and we're so soft-spoken that no one really registers when we get serious. There are more infuriating misinterpretations that have happened, but overall I blame social awkwardness moreso than demonic origins.
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