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Amaris Matris

Stress reducers

Hello!

 

This thread is for people to share what they do when they are stressed or upset to help them relax or just a habit (like biting your fingernails).

 

Personally, I'm not usually someone to talk about my feelings to anyone except for my mother (who I confide almost everything in) because I don't like people to see me vulnerable so I try to sort things and my own emotions out by myself.

 

One way I deal with being upset is making a doll. They are usually made of four sticks (one for the spine one for the arms and two for the legs) with a chestnut for a head wrapped with string to hold it all together. I like to think that I put all of my bad emotions and all of my tears into the doll as I'm making it.

 

Then I build up a fire and destroy everything that is related to the thing that is making me upset. I burn all of the paper documents, I delete every email or message or I unfriendly people on various things, delete contact details and finally, I burn the doll. Then I put out the fire once everything is gone and the doll is only ashes.

 

That is what I do, what do you do? Do you have any specific thing or do you have a habit or something you do to relax?

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I drink a cup of tea, it's warm and relaxing. I try to do things to keep my mind occupied like playing a game, drawing, walking my dog.

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Often I make some tea or coffee, or I get an energy drink since I have a bit of a caffeine addiction. I draw or write some sort of vent, though they're often quite intense. I've got certain songs I relate to calmness, which I often listen to when anxious on buses and while travelling to settle my nerves.

This one may sound childish, but someone really important to me made me a plush dragon about two years ago. I relate it to her and it's nice and soft, so holding it when I'm stressed and alone is good.

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I dance, do art, go for walks in the woods, listen to music, cuddle with my husband and/or kitty, and watch my favourite TV shows. :)

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I also have a stuffed animal that I like to hold for stress, surprisingly picked up that habit only as an adult.

I often use scents as well - I have a vial of Dragon's Blood that is very strong and very soothing, and it can be dabbed onto things easily if I'm heading somewhere.

I draw and/or color, depending on my mood and how into things I want to get. Coloring Furvilla bases or any of the line art of artist's I follow and be fun and stress reducing. I'll also switch over to sewing if I have a current project - I hand sew so it's very rhythmic and relaxing.

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I drink a cup of tea, it's warm and relaxing. I try to do things to keep my mind occupied like playing a game, drawing, walking my dog.

 

Cool! I have dogs as well and I find walking them is also great to relieve stress.

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I also have a stuffed animal that I like to hold for stress, surprisingly picked up that habit only as an adult.

I often use scents as well - I have a vial of Dragon's Blood that is very strong and very soothing, and it can be dabbed onto things easily if I'm heading somewhere.

I draw and/or color, depending on my mood and how into things I want to get. Coloring Furvilla bases or any of the line art of artist's I follow and be fun and stress reducing. I'll also switch over to sewing if I have a current project - I hand sew so it's very rhythmic and relaxing.

 

That's interesting, what is the stuffed animal? I have one that I sleep with occasionally which I've had since I was two. He is a chocolate brown moose and his antlers are incredibly worn because I used to chew them.

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I very nearly had a breakdown, but I started trying to stimulate my senses. I ended up sniffing a deodorant bar, not the best idea but it worked. Old spice odor blocker body wash is too powerful to let this depression set in. This was a rare occasion. In most cases, I write, drink tea, go for a walk, listen to music, or play video games.

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I usually pace and think of scenarios that match what caused it to raise it. This is more of a method to burn myself out so the effects don't last as long as they normally would. I make sure I'm alone when I do it, so I don't get angry or emotion towards anybody. Since it also burns my energy, I take a nap afterwards. By the time I wake up, I'm completely fine. It's probably not the most healthy method, but it works better than anything. It's also the reason why I tend not to hold grudges; I get rid of it all at once.

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It's a bit stupid bit... when I have panic attack, I read my Machinery Handbook, do mental math or try to analyse the structure of object near me.

 

Doing stuff that is rational truly help calming me down. I'm pretty sure that it's scientifically proven that you can't be in a state of panic while reading about metal density. It's just that boring.

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I have since my very early teens have had a bad habit of ripping small bits of skin off of certain parts of my body, usually my face though. Thankfully it has gotten much, MUCH better nowadays, but it sometimes surfaces when I am facing incredible amounts of stress. In the past it made my skin not look very pretty though.

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I'm a coffee and tea drinker like others, though I don't think the caffeine does much for relaxing me in the end. As someone who doesn't usually talk openly about my feelings (for better or for worse), I'm more likely to be listening to music, playing games, or working to take my mind off it, or just trying to work through it so that it stops eating up my mental energy. In many cases, what is is going to be and agonizing over it changes very little. I've also been prone to snacking but try not to keep too much junk laying around.

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Tea is definitely a go to for stress. I even have a special hidden pocket in my bag I keep with me at all times I call my "tea-mergency" pocket. It's filled with over two dozen teas.

I also stretch/do yoga, write, draw, colour, listen to calming music.

And sometimes if I'm particularly stressed I go to my baby blanket that I was given when I was born. I'll hold it over my nose with my index and middle finger and breathe it's scent, and with my free hand I'll rub the pipe fold (that's when material loosely folds over itself). Scent and touch are important senses for me.

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Tea is definitely a go to for stress. I even have a special hidden pocket in my bag I keep with me at all times I call my "tea-mergency" pocket. It's filled with over two dozen teas.

I also stretch/do yoga, write, draw, colour, listen to calming music.

And sometimes if I'm particularly stressed I go to my baby blanket that I was given when I was born. I'll hold it over my nose with my index and middle finger and breathe it's scent, and with my free hand I'll rub the pipe fold (that's when material loosely folds over itself). Scent and touch are important senses for me.

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A tea-mergency pocket is a fantastic idea. I need one for chocolate

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[PLURALSYS=color_hue=0;Malfael]Sugar, a scalding shower, a shot of vodka, and enough incense to think I was burning the magic bush beforehand. Being multiple, most stress is directly physically related... for whatever reason. Calm the body, the spirit within can exist in peace. If it's something from within though, I'm usually the go-to problem solving machine. I'll talk up and down about any issue anyone has until it makes sense.[/PLURALSYS]

 

[PLURALSYS=color_hue=269;Neguilla]I generally do not experience stress, but when I do, I enjoy behaving more naturally as well as logically working through well-known information. Walking in grass with my bare feet, naming the flora and fauna I see is more than sufficient. Spending a good deal of time processing facts, learning new things, or doing simple mathematical or kinisthetic puzzles is also extremely soothing, almost meditative to me.[/PLURALSYS]

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If I'm not at home, or away from my usually things, I have a stress ring that can spin that I find really helps with both anxiety and stress. Just having something to twiddle with my hands does a lot when there's nothing else. When I'm out, I also try to always have earphones at least with me, just in case the need comes up I can pop on a playlist to help me relax, or sometimes even if I don't have music playing in them, I think just having them to even slightly block things out helps a lot.

 

When I am at home though, I have certain music I generally listen to, usually along the lines of New Age or Orchestral music, and maybe some Country every now and then.

I also pet my dog, or hold my snakes, and just having another being there seems to help at times.

And if all else fails, I just go lay in bed for a while and listen to music/watch a documentary to distract myself.

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Music, sketching, reading, and sitting outside. Music and doodling seem to work best; music gets me out of a poor mindset, and doodling is a good refocus.

 

[PLURALSYS=color_hue=232;Sonic]Running, sleeping, and music![/PLURALSYS]

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I draw, listen to music, take pictures, play with my pets and watch an insane amount of Netflix. :)

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Lately, it's been anything where I get to work with my hands: drawing, painting, macrame, baking, re-potting plants. I may or may not have on music, just as I may or may not use that MyNoise site I like to promote around here. Hopefully y'all will try it. I guess I should make a new thread for it, because I think it was lost in the site's mishap earlier this year. There are plenty of sounds on it that could be soothing to various kin :)

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It depends on what my kind of stress is. Because of being mentally ill and in a mental health improvement system of sorts, I have tried quite a bit! One thing that does always calm me down is putty or slime, whether its physical or if it's on a visual stimulation blog. I also like sculpting or drawing vent art, or just talking my feelings out with people who are close to me.

 

I also happen to be Wiccan, so spells and meditation also work well for me. That's just a personal thing though!

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When I get stressed I find the best thing for me is to take a walk in nature, always relaxes me. I also find swimming, going to the gym, meditation and tea also helps. I do also carry around tea with me for stress related emergencies.

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I have a spot in my kitchen where the sun comes through a window and makes a big warm patch on the stone floor. I'll curl up there with the cat in the morning; I haven't found many things more peaceful than just lying in the sun. If I'm really stressed and need to tune out for a bit, I turn the lights off and close the blinds in my bedroom and take a couple quiet minutes in the dark to snuggle into the nest that my bed always seems to turn into. It's my go-to cool down method.

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Music is and always has been the way I calm myself in times of stress. I can get lost in a song and all my woes disappear. I'm also calmed by being around familiar surroundings. I take comfort in routine and consistency. It always helps me to meditate and hang around my headspace, reminisce on my former life and do things that relate to my kinself, a time when I was stress free and ultimately comfortable. When I can hone in on that feeling, it brings me peace.

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