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Abnormal Ways to Relieve Stress?

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Making this thread for the people who might need a new way to relieve stress.

A weird way I relax or relieve stress is by watching videos of things being destroyed. Like videos of foods, cars parts, toys, and other things just being put into huge shredders. I think it can be sort of connected to ASMR for me because I just really love the noises of the crunching like in this

. Hydraulic Press videos are also a big one, like this video on a can of shaving cream being pressed and
of silly string.
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I love demolition videos! I also enjoy watching videos of people writing fancy calligraphy, or finding pictures of everyday objects/decor/etc that are semetrical in every way.

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One thing that I do to relieve stress is to play a game of Magic against myself. Like, it's not the most challenging thing, but it lets me take my mind off things, try out some new ideas, and play what I want without being judged by anyone. (I totally don't have a goat deck for that express purpose).

 

Longboarding is a great stress reliever, especially on paved trails. You can just go for miles if you get going well enough, and it's just marvelous to see everything whizzing past you as if you are in a world of your own. It helps that one of the best trails for that in my town is down by the waterfront.

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When I was married, and my wife and I had a fight, one of us would end up cleaning the kitchen. These days, as that kind of stress is out of my life, that MyNoise site works as does decluttering.

 

As for videos of things getting destroyed, you might have a look at the stuff produced by Survival Research Laboratories :D

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Lately I've been driving motorcycles at top speed on Saints Row to calm me down. It's been helpful. Also blowing things up in the game is helpful too

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I like the ASMR videos of slime or cutting things, and the hydraulic press dude has some cool stuff. I also tend to like shredding leaves to remove stress, it was an awful habit when I was a kid, I like pulling them from bushes and ripping them into little pieces. Or sitting down and pulling grass strands out of the ground to shred. Sounds really weird to type, but it's calming. You're outside while doing it too, which helps.

 

@Quxyun I legitimately got confused for a second when reading your post until I remembered Magic was a game that existed and you like. :sweatsmile:

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I relieve stress by working. I always have something I need to work on, and working on music is very calming to me. I kind of disappear into my own world, and stress melts away.

 

I also sing and/or play guitar. Any form of making music, be it playing it myself or mixing it, is my ultimate stress relief. I occasionally play video games to get my mind off things, or draw. Drawing is good for the soul. I like to draw silly, happy things that put me in a good mood.

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I've always found repetition to be a very relaxing thing. While one of my normal productive go-tos is hand sewing, when I need to really distress I go for mind-numbingly repetitive. For example, typing the same thing over and over and over again - my current favorite for that right now is "159753" simply because of how pleasing it is to do on the num pad. I also like taking a blank sheet of paper, drawing random lines with a ruler all over it, and then coloring it in - only black and white though, so that it is always every-other. Both very simple things, but also relaxing.

Another similar thing is shredding - taking a piece of paper or the like, ripping it in half, then taking those halves and ripping them again - etc., etc. until there's only the tiniest bits left.

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Physical activity relieves my stress the most. However I do enjoy listening to Metal as a means to relieve stress. Specially "Goi Rode Goi" from Arkona. I SCREAM with her and at the end I feel like everything I have been bottled up has been forced out of me. If I am feeling REALLY bad I'll play the whole album or my next fav "Cursed Be Iron" by Turisas. Head banging, screaming, and gestures with entire body ensue if I am not driving lol Any other time I am not built up and stressed, this kind of music actually calms me. lol

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Physical activity relieves stress for me as well, if I'm anxious or have had a stressful day I head down the gym or for a swim. Going out into nature also helps, climbing trees, paddling in streams, nature photography, walking in the woods are all great stress relievers for me.

Oh, and there are other activities that take place behind closed doors that really help:winkwolf:

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Like Neve, I also sing to help me relieve stress. I sing songs that I like, that feel powerful emotionally, and/or that fit the situation. I don't know why, but I've always enjoyed singing, and it makes me feel better.

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My way to relieve my stress is to play Call of Duty zombies and just start knifing.

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Abnormal?

I have a mix of anxiety and depression on a daily basis. I'm assuming we are talking about stress over things that are outside of control.

 

Things I do/have done:

  • Getting aggressive with those pesky guards in Assassins Creed. (Killing them all.)
     
  • In general, getting aggressive in a safe way relieves a lot of stress for me. :P
     
  • Listening or watching people I like. Usually someone who is just full of life to where their personality authentically pours out of them. It tends to kindle livelihood inside me as well. It's like the opposite of stress which is draining, to me.
     
  • Also talking to someone like this in person.
     
  • NOT doing any self reflective writing during the extra stress, as it stresses me out more and can potentially help a panic attack happen.
     
  • Coming up with scenarios in my head and strategies for dealing with them. If I don't have an answer, educate myself. Feeling more mentally prepared for something makes me feel more calm.
     
  • Have an imaginary confrontation with the spawn of Satan. XD This is my last ditch effort for when the stress won't go away, I just have it all out in my head and take it out on a kind of "tree stump" which is whatever I come up with in my head. It just serves to burn up that stress quickly instead of suffering all day long.
     
  • Twirling around in my room if all else fails.
     
  • Yelling at the sky like a crazy person in a wide open field, as well as singing, and laughing like a lunatic while ripping up and throwing gleefully into the air some documents which caused so much stress (I didn't need them, of course). No idea what this is, but it works!
  • Saying screw it, and telling someone I trust what's been on my mind which I was afraid to tell them before.

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Abnormal?

I have a mix of anxiety and depression on a daily basis. I'm assuming we are talking about stress over things that are outside of control.

 

Things I do/have done:

  • Getting aggressive with those pesky guards in Assassins Creed. (Killing them all.)
     
  • In general, getting aggressive in a safe way relieves a lot of stress for me. :p
     
  • Listening or watching people I like. Usually someone who is just full of life to where their personality authentically pours out of them. It tends to kindle livelihood inside me as well. It's like the opposite of stress which is draining, to me.
     
  • Also talking to someone like this in person.
     
  • NOT doing any self reflective writing during the extra stress, as it stresses me out more and can potentially help a panic attack happen.
     
  • Coming up with scenarios in my head and strategies for dealing with them. If I don't have an answer, educate myself. Feeling more mentally prepared for something makes me feel more calm.
     
  • Have an imaginary confrontation with the spawn of Satan. XD This is my last ditch effort for when the stress won't go away, I just have it all out in my head and take it out on a kind of "tree stump" which is whatever I come up with in my head. It just serves to burn up that stress quickly instead of suffering all day long.
     
  • Twirling around in my room if all else fails.
     
  • Yelling at the sky like a crazy person in a wide open field, as well as singing, and laughing like a lunatic while ripping up and throwing gleefully into the air some documents which caused so much stress (I didn't need them, of course). No idea what this is, but it works!
  • Saying screw it, and telling someone I trust what's been on my mind which I was afraid to tell them before.

I have anxiety too. Laughing like a lunatic is something I do but I cover it up by trying to do the voice of the German in zombies. When I have an anxiety attack I usually watch the Powers Rangers.

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I chew stuff. Usually cutlery, since that doesn't get completely wrecked when I'm gnawing on it (and hey, metal tastes kind of nice).

 

I also find storms relaxing, so if it's stormy out (or even just windy or raining heavy) and I'm feeling stressed, I'll just go sit outside for a little. I like the dark too. My old house was out in the middle of nowhere, so I liked to go sit out there in the middle of the night and just listen to the trees and the river nearby. It was a little scary sometimes, but I liked that. Fear is so much easier to deal with than anxiety.

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I spent a couple of years off writing or drawing any sort of angst/vent (or even just letting ideas or scenarios play out in my head without putting them somewhere) but I found out that this really doesn't help me. I almost fell back into physically self-destructive behaviors as a result of abstaining from more creative forms of expressing stress, anger, sadness, etc. and I stopped journaling for awhile because of several scenarios where people I stupidly let close to me decided it was a good idea to get me to share my private thoughts because it was a "right" or some other BS.

 

Thankfully, I've gotten back into creative outlets for extreme stress in addition to trying to get back into strength training when I'm overwhelmed. I know exercise of any sort is a scientifically proven method of relieving stress, but just taking a walk or messing around in the pool won't cut it for me. I need some sort of actual routine or something. I'd also get back into fencing or take up a contact sport/martial art or take some self-defense courses but for some reason I've never gotten around to endurance training or anything that would allow me to actually start a course like that...

 

I'll also tear stuff up, but usually it's food. Beef jerky and raw kale are favorites for this, I need something I can really chew at with some resistance. I've tried chew toys and even paper before but it's not the same for me. Pantyhose are also surprisingly fun and calming to tear apart, I don't remember how or why I found this out (probably some weird incident as a kid) but it works.

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I either play violent or aggressive games like Mortal Kombat, or I just play with my pet bird. Depends on the type of stress. Pets have special healing powers.

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I like to read some really good books (often I'll reread my most favourite books if I'm really strung up).

I used to like to run, especially in the rain, the feel of the water droplets on my skin, especially when i was angry, there was just somethign about it that cooled me off. It was refreshing and calming.

I like to do yoga, watch movies, listen to jazz or classical music...

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Abnormal?

Does sport shooting counts as abnormal? This really helps.

Otherwise any other sport activity is a not bad choose.

Also listning music and reading countless Internet stuff works well.

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I really all depends for me. There is no simple method that I use 24/7, as stress can and will arise at any point of the day. Here are a few methods that I use, in no particular order:

 

Grounding

Usually "grounding" myself is my main tool for me to help me relieve stress; this is achieved by imagining my body turning into a tree of some sort and imagining the roots go into the earth to release all the stress and then soak up "new energy".

 

Drawing

Another method is just drawing random stuff with no purpose at all. Most of the things that really give me solace and time to calm down is if I draw with a lot of loose lines and to just let things flow out, as they come. So, in other words: Unplanned artwork seems to help myself decrease stress. Venting with artwork is a big no-no for me; it just doesn't work for me.

 

Music + Ambiance

I like to tie these two in the same boat, since I play one, or the other, or even both at the same time. I don't play music that have fast beats or harsh sounds to it, as well as I don't play any sounds that have any "jagged" or "rough sounds". They all need to have organization, smooth transition, and consistency, to help me get myself back up to speed.

Animals

There's not much more than having an animal around that you can go to and just snuggle with. Since I work at the hospital, interacting with animals severely decreases my stress levels. Even my own dog at home helps me relieve my stress just by playing, walking, and just snuggling with him.

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I draw, write, or watch my favorite let's players for a laugh. I may also go have a sweet treat and a favorite drink like coffee or tea. Anything sweet and edible tends to do the trick for me if nothing else will. Those aren't really abnormal to me though. The biggest abnormality I do is biting. Zenith says it's our relation to zombies, but I've always found comfort in biting no matter what it is. I was known as a kid for biting people when I was angry with them. I bit pencils in half in school. I've scarred people with bites. >.<" I also bite myself, which is a terrible habit but it's an amazing stress-reliever. Whether it's my connection to zombies or my autism, I'm not sure, but hopefully I'll get myself a stim toy I can bite for stress-relief in the future instead.

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Sometimes, if I'm mad enough, I'll go awkwardly pace around somewhere quiet. While doing that, I also talk to myself or my headmates in a hiss-like whisper, saying whatever useless nonsense pops up in my head. It's weird, but it sort of calms me down, sometimes.

 

That, or I just listen to edgy music and watch YouTube. Although, I've also been known to draw or write rants.

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I play Okami, it's my favorite video game. Depending on how I'm feeling, there are a few things I do - if I want to fight something I find some demons to destroy, if I want to chill out I go to a secluded spot and sniff around, etc. For real life things, walking is really helpful. Gives me something easy to do while considering my emotions in the background (if I'm sitting around and not doing anything, my mind tends to get too into it, then short out and send me to the good old "everything is bad" standby). Going outside and walking is even better.

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