Some Advice For Newly Discovered & Questioning Fictionkin
- This should go without saying yet time and time again people don’t do it - do some research into fictionkin before deciding you are fictionkin. And I do not mean just spending an hour or so on someone’s personal blog. Honestly, the more you read (especially outside of tumblr…) the better. Yes, looking for good and accurate information on fictionkin can be very hard (and you are going to have to keep an eye out for fluff and misinformation) , but it’s just something that really needs to be done.
- Thoroughly weed out the possibility that you are just really only just identifying with or connecting with a character or species. Fictional characters in media are often portrayed to be relatable and the human brain is very good at making connections to characters. Really relating to a character is very common and perfectly normal, and there is nothing wrong with that - but it doesn't make someone fictionkin. (This is another reason why you should take your time when considering if you are fictionkin or not.)
- Check to make sure the reason you identify as a fictional species or character so much isn’t because of some mythical inspiration. Many fictional species are based on mythical or real-life creatures or ideas in some combination or another. [For example, say you’ve come across Spice and Wolf and you are really identifying as Holo. There is just something about seeing yourself as a wolf shaped harvest spirit/deity that you identify as. Before taking that at face value, look into the folklore creature that inspired her species. Corn-wolves (and wheat-wolves specifically) may be why you identify as/with Holo so much rather than actually being Holo fictionkin.] Look into if there isn't an underlying mythical creature or real-life animal that is showing through the fictional species or character that you are actually identifying as.
- Before concluding you are fictonkin, analyze your source. Find every scrap of information on the species or character you are questioning and pick it a part critically. [For example, a raichu fictionkin picking apart every physical feature of raichu and comparing them to any phantom limb experiences then moving on and analyzing behavior traits, etc.] See how similar or different your identity actually is the species or character in question.
- To add to this when analyzing your source - look for things that could prove you wrong. Don’t ignore anything that doesn’t fit or seem right corresponding with your identity. Hunt for those things! Pick them apart and consider them.
- Take a break and take your time. Way too often, people jump on the idea that something is a kintype before giving themselves any time to analyze themselves and giving themselves time to step away and think for a while. Figuring out your identity and sense of self is not a race. Don’t treat it like one. Take your time. Please do not assume that you are the odd person out of the bunch that won’t change your mind or not feel the way you are feeling out several weeks or months down the road. It’s way better to be overly through and very skeptical now rather than thinking about that later. You will be doing yourself a favor by taking the time to be critical now before you grab hold of a label and start trying to use it.
- Consider going on an otherkin forum and asking to be questioned. Yes, joining a forum and saying “I’m questioning being fictionkin, question me” is intimidating but if you can’t answer even the most basic of questions that should indicate a problem to you right away. Also, if you can hold your own against the most skeptical of otherkin, that too can show you much. Someone might bring up a question or possibility you hadn't considered yet which might be to your advantage.
- Finally as a last bit of advice, you're going to have to accept that a fair number of otherkin are very skeptical of fictionkin. Trolls like to masquerade as fictionkin and it's very common for people to mix-up their identifying with a fictional species or characters compared to actually identifying AS a fictional species or character. Sometimes this means fictionkin are held to a higher standard of needing to explain their experiences compared to say, therians. Whether you consider it fair or not, that is how things are, and that is why it is advisable to know what fictionkin is and have your rational for labeling yourself as such down as best you can. Knowing those things will hopefully make being an active member of the otherkin community a whole lot smoother for you in the long run.
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